This will be a 6 part blog post so be sure to come back to read all parts of this. Each part will focus on different aspects of destroying families. The 6 parts are 1) Sexual Sin, 2) Love of Money, 3) Time, 4) Addictions, 5) Attitude, & 6) Wrap Up.
I talk a lot about family because family is one of my biggest passions. I love to see marriages thrive not just survive. In this day and time there are so many marriages falling apart and a good bit of those have to do with some kind of sexual sin.
It’s time for Christian men to stand up against sexual sin. Many are watching porn, flirting with others who aren’t their spouse, lusting after people they know they shouldn’t be all in the form of sexual sin but calling it being a man.
If you are lusting after another woman who isn’t your wife and doing things that God would be against, you are committing sexual sin. There is NOTHING manly about it. It is just plain cowardly and selfish of you to do this.
Why are you even married? As I am talking about sexual sins, this goes both ways. Don’t think it is just men in this day and time. There are as many women as men now going against everything God teaches and wants for our lives. Sexual sins are the worst because you are sinning against your own body:
1 Corinthians 6:18 – Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
God doesn’t say tempt yourself to see if you can be strong, he says FLEE from sexual immorality. If most people would listen to just that one verse we would change this world overnight. There would be less divorce rates and we would cut back on almost every issue we have.
People don’t realize how sexual immorality affects people. It destroys families. Satan knows this and this is why he will be over your shoulder every step of the way trying to get you to fall sexually. He knows he can destroy everything God has created through one sin and that’s sexual sin.
Look at David in the bible. He had it all. Even after all that he still fell! Imagine that, someone as strong as he was to fall as hard as he did. It is when you don’t think you can fall that opens the door to sin.
When you realize that we all can fall under the right circumstances then you keep your heart guarded so that you don’t fall. Our hearts lie to us. Our passions can be the trigger the fall. We are passionate people but that passion has to be directed towards Christ or eventually we fall.
Sexual sin blinds us. It makes us not see the truth and the more it happens the more sin becomes comfortable within our lives. When you catch yourselves saying “But” on anything that is sin then your heart has already fallen. There are no “buts”, there are NO EXCUSES! We are to keep our hearts and minds pure in Christ.
David didn’t see how his one night would change his life forever. He didn’t see it would cause four of his children to die. He didn’t see it would split his kingdom in half. And he for sure didn’t see it would make him a murderer but that is what happens when you sin and try to cover it up. You go farther than you intended to go.
Sin will always cost you more than you intended to pay, it will take you further than you intended to go, and it will keep you longer than you intended to stay. Sin will keep you blind to the truth. The more you sin, the more you will sin.
Unless you stop sin early on, you will sin larger as time goes by and eventually it all will unravel. God may not bring you down right away but eventually when the time is right God will bring you to your knees.
You might as well get your act together now so that your sin won’t become larger and then the consequences become almost unbearable.
So the big question is, what if you have been sinning sexually whether it is with another woman physically or looking at porn or just thinking bad thoughts about people you know? Do you realize that if you repent God can change your heart and help you still finish strong?
Yes you may still have consequences to your actions but God can redirect your life into something magnificent. He can turn your mess into a message. He can turn your test into a testimony if you allow him to.
Let’s look at David, when he was finally confronted his response was: 2 Samuel 12-13 – So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die.
Did you catch that last part? God put away his sin? Is that like wow? Most of us haven’t murdered someone and did everything David did but God still put his sin away! That is powerful. This means that no matter what you have done, God can and will forgive you. There is hope for you if you put your trust in Christ.
Ask God to forgive your sexual sins. Confess them right now to the Lord. Confess everything you are doing so that your heart can be wiped clean. God is ready and able to cleanse your heart and mind. It is time for you to clean all this up.
No matter what your sexual sin is, God can and will heal your soul through Jesus Christ. Ask God to come back into your heart and tell him that from this point you will follow him. You may never be perfect but you will always work toward being better each day. Ask him to give you the courage to follow through with everything and to drop anything and everything you need to drop to keep you away from any sexual temptation.
You may have to drop the internet if that is your stronghold. You may have to change jobs if that is where your temptation is at. You may even have to change friends if that is where your temptation is. No matter where your temptation is, you have to let it go and move on in Christ.
Ask God to give you the wisdom to know where that temptation is so that you can get rid of it. If you work on all of that God will work in your heart to heal everything. None of this is easy but it’s worth it to rid the bondage all of this has on your heart.
Your family NEEDS you to be pure. Don’t allow satan to fool you. Your family is worth any price you have to pay in order to stay as pure as you can.
Living an Inspired Marriage!
Chris Benton
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